Presentation: Staying safe online – A toolkit for youth ages 10-12
1 - Presentation: Staying safe online – A toolkit for youth ages 10-12
2 - Things to look out for online
- Meeting strangers on the Internet
- Sending or receiving naked images and/or videos
Notes
Today, we’ll be discussing how you can stay safe online. Specifically, we’re going to talk about times when adults make kids feel uncomfortable online.
There are three ways this happens that we’ll talk about today: meeting strangers who try to be friends with you on the Internet so you’ll eventually send images and/or videos of yourself to them – which is called “grooming”.
Video chatting with strangers on the Internet who may record or screenshot you, often without you knowing it — which is called “capping”
And finding, sending, or receiving naked images and videos.
If you don’t know what these mean, that’s OK – I’ll explain it all soon.
3 - If someone online has made you feel scared, confused, or upset, you are not alone.
Talk to a safe adult.
Notes
A few words before we begin:
Some of what we talk about today might seem pretty scary, but it’s something you need to know to stay safe online.
There’s one really important thing I need you to take away from this lesson: If you or someone you know has been sent images or videos of people who are naked, or messages talking about your body that make you feel upset, confused, uncomfortable or like you are in danger, please reach out to a safe adult, like a parent, other family member or teacher. You will not get in trouble. We are here to help.
4 - Agenda
- Naked images and videos
- Online grooming
- Capping
- What you can do to protect yourself
- Resources
- Discussion
5 - Naked images and videos
6 - Video: Naked images and videos
7 - What are we talking about?
Notes
There are a lot of images and videos online, but some of them are not good for kids to see or were not supposed to be shared.
Sometimes you may see things that were not meant for you, like images of people who are naked or touching each other in ways that confuse or upset you, or make you have a lot of questions. To makes things simple, we’ll call those “naked images and videos”.
8 - Where do people find them?
Notes
You might accidentally see images and videos of naked people anytime you’re online using your computer, tablet, phone or game console.
They can show up when you’re visiting websites, using apps, watching videos or playing games.
Someone may even send them to you.
9 - How do I deal with naked images and videos?
- Try to avoid them
- Never share them
- Block whoever sent them
- Talk to a safe adult
Notes
The best way to not see naked images and videos is to try and avoid them. There is still a good chance you will eventually come across them. If you do come across images or videos that make you feel uncomfortable, here’s what you need to do:
First, don’t share them with your friends. If it upsets you, chances are it will upset them too. And if they weren’t shared with consent, you can also end up hurting the person shown in the images and videos. Consent is when someone gives their permission for something to happen or agreement to do something. The only time you should show someone else a naked image or video is if you are reporting it to a safe adult.
If someone sends you a naked image or video, don’t keep it a secret. Tell a safe adult right away. It’s OK to show them what was sent to you. You will not get in trouble. You should also stop talking to this person — if they’re sending you naked images or videos, they’re not your friend, and they might even mean you harm. Never agree to meet them in person if you don’t know them already.
And if you’re ever upset, confused, or feel uncomfortable or in danger, you can always talk to your parents or a safe adult for help.
10 - It’s not ok for someone to send you images or videos that make you feel uncomfortable.
Notes
Sometimes when we’re online, we find images and videos that we weren’t meant to see — and that’s OK.
What’s not OK is when someone sends them to you on purpose. Nobody should be sharing naked images or videos with you — not even your friends. And you shouldn’t share them, either.
11 - Online grooming
12 - Video: Online grooming
13 - What is online grooming?
Notes
Some people with harmful intentions will use the internet to try and become “friends” with kids like you. It could be someone you know, or a total stranger. They may act like your friend, girlfriend or boyfriend over days, weeks, or even months. They might pretend to be your age or look like an adult. And they’ll do all that to try and gain control over you, and eventually ask you to talk about your body, or to send them images or videos of yourself without your clothes on.
When someone acts like your friend to try and make you do things like sending naked images of yourself, that’s called grooming. And it can put you in danger.
14 - Where can online grooming happen?
- Social media apps
- Text messages or online chats
- Online games where users message or talk to each other
- Livestreaming or video apps
Notes
Grooming can happen anywhere you can talk to other people online (on your computer, tablet, phone or game console), including on apps, when you’re playing games online, when you are livestreaming and through text messages or chats.
15 - How does grooming happen?
- Someone approaches you online and tries to be your friend
- They talk about things you like, say nice things or give you gifts
- They may talk about or ask you to do things that you don’t want to do
- They might ask you to go meet them somewhere in person
- They may threaten you or ask you not to tell anyone
Notes
Grooming might look a little different to different people, but it can happen like this:
Grooming starts with someone — whether it’s a person you know or a stranger — reaching out to you online and trying to be your friend.
From there, they may say nice things to you, or talk to you about your interests and friends.
They may also give you gifts or compliments.
Eventually, they may start talking about or asking you to do things that make you feel uncomfortable, embarrassed or upset.
They might send you naked images, talk about your body, or ask you to do things you don’t want to do.
They might also ask you to meet them somewhere in person.
They will probably ask you not to tell anyone what you’ve talked about with them, and they might make you feel like you’ll get in trouble if you do.
But remember: You never have to do anything someone online asks you to. You can stop talking to people who make you feel bad. And don’t keep it a secret. Tell a parent, teacher or a safe adult.
16 - What can you do to stay safe?
Notes
Ask your parents before you become friends with people online. It’s always safer to not make friends with, accept gifts from or meet up with people you don’t know well online — not everyone on the internet is who they say they are.
And never forget that your feelings matter. If you’re unhappy, embarrassed or scared, it’s OK to stop talking to the person. It’s always OK to say no to someone or block them if something feels weird or wrong. Tell a safe adult about the situation and they can help you get out of it.
17 - What can you do to stay safe?
Don’t share personal information, including your:
- Full name
- Age
- Phone number
- Address or location
- School
- Schedule
- Usernames and passwords
- Friends and family
- Photos and videos
Notes
The best advice for staying safe online is to be careful when interacting with others — even if they’re people you know.
Keep personal information about yourself private. Don’t post things like your full name, location or personal photos or videos online. Don’t put any of this information in your bio or profile section of any social media accounts you might have. Even if the account is set to private, strangers can see that information without having to add you as a friend.
18 - It’s OK to talk to people you don’t know in person when you’re online, but not without talking to your parents first.
Notes
Talking to people you don’t know happens a lot online — but you still need to be careful. It’s best to talk to your parents or caregiver before talking to someone online if you don’t know them in person.
If anyone is making you feel uncomfortable online — whether they’re asking too many personal questions, saying things you don’t want to hear, or even just being mean — you don’t have to listen or do anything they say. You’re always allowed to stop talking to anyone you want for whatever reason.
19 - Capping
20 - Video: Capping
21 - What is capping?
Notes
Capping is known as lying for many, but it can also mean when someone, usually an adult, records or screenshots you and your body and what you’re doing over a video call — often without you knowing they are recording. It can happen when you are on your computer, tablet, or phone, or when you’re playing games online, and it can put you in a harmful situation.
22 - How does capping happen?
- Someone talks to you online
- They ask you to video chat with them
- They may seem nice and interested in the things you like
- They may ask you to take off some of your clothes
- They record or take a screen shot of what you do without you knowing and may keep bugging you to do more things
- They may share the recording with others
- They may threaten you to do more things they ask
Notes
Capping can happen quickly and it can put you in a harmful situation. It can go like this:
- Someone talks to you online pretending to be someone they are not — often someone around your age.
- They may ask you to video chat with them.
- They may seem nice and interested in the things you like.
- They may start asking you to take off some or all of your clothes for them.
- If you do what they ask, they will record or take a screen shot of what you are doing, even if it was live-streaming, and may keep bugging you to do more things while video chatting.
- They may also say they will share the video they have recorded of you with family or friends and tell you that you will get into trouble.
23 - What can you do to deal with capping?
- Ask your parents before talking to someone new online
- Keep personal information and details about your life private
- Know you can always say no when someone asks you to do something online
- Stop talking to the person
- Tell a parent or a safe adult
- Get help at KidsHelpPhone.ca
Notes
It is important to remember that there are people who will try to trick you into doing things. Here are some ways to be careful and stay safe:
Ask your parents before talking to someone new online. They will help you make sure it is safe.
We’ve already mentioned this, but keep your personal information private while online – like your full name, phone number, where you are and details about your life.
Know you can always say no when someone asks you to do something online. It is never too late, and it is always your choice.
If you feel scared, nervous or uncomfortable at any time while talking to someone online, stop talking to the person and tell a parent, teacher or another safe adult.
You can also get help at KidsHelpPhone.ca from people you can trust and who know what to do.
24 - It’s OK to be online, but if something feels weird, stop and tell a safe adult.
Notes
If anyone is saying or asking you to do things that make you feel weird or uncomfortable, it is always okay to stop talking to them and tell a safe adult.
25 - Resources
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KidsHelpPhone.ca
Text: 686868
Phone: 1-800-668-6868
Help for kids by phone, text or chat
Cybertip.ca
Canada’s tip line for reporting online child sexual exploitation
NeedHelpNow.ca
Get help removing shared naked images
or videos from the internet
Notes
You are not alone. If you need any more information on this subject, or need to report it or talk to someone about it, here are some websites you can visit for help.
If you’re not comfortable talking to someone in person you can talk to someone at kids Help Phone. You can also report your experiences online at Cybertip.ca, and get help removing naked images or videos of yourself from the internet at NeedHelpNow.ca. I’ll give you some information about these resources for you to take home after this presentation.
27 - Remember:
Notes
If anything we’ve discussed today ever happens to you, just remember:
28 - If any of this ever happens to you, it is not your fault.
It’s never ok for adults to make kids feel uncomfortable.
29 - It is always ok to say no
30 - It is always ok to block someone
31 - It is always ok to break off contact
32 - If you’re in a situati - on that makes you uncomfortable, talk to a safe adult.
We’re here to help.
Find more information about online child sexual exploitation at: Canada.ca/Child-Exploitation
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